being unique

every single one of us is different from the other. this statement is true and will always be true. even identical twins are diferent persons..nothing's the same in this world..well, humans, that is..

best friends may say,"oh! we have lots of things in common." but there are differences which we have to accept n live with..there's a phrase,"like father, like son" yeah, of course, the son has the father's genes n perhaps inherits some of the latter's characters..but he's not totally like the father..coz he has the mother's genes n personality in him..get it?

each of us is a mixture of different personalities, physical features, IQ, EQ, colour, interests..et cetera..et cetera..some people may look 99.9% the same or have 99.9% similarities, but the fact is, there is SOMETHING that tell them apart..anyway, you cant make someone like you - or you cant be 'that' someone - even though you try very hard to impress him/her/them by acting to be like him/her/them.. it's so unoriginal..copycat..'pirated'..cowardly..untrue..

so, what im trying to say is that IM UNIQUE. n so are you.

im the product of my parents, my upbringing, the external environment..whatever..n i do change..humans cant escape from changes nor can they deny that changes exist..whether the change is in themselves or their surroundings..n once things change, you cannot hope n pray that everything will go back to 'normal' or say something like 'i want to see the old liyana again'..coz nothing can be the same twice..

as i grow up, i see things..i look, i read, i listen, i hear, i touch, i feel, i ponder, i wonder, i interpret n i make my own decisions of how i want to see the world n all of its elements, dilemmas..etc..based on my judgements which are influenced by all the factors above.

talk about maturity. people say that experience makes you more matured. i guess that's true...but it's not just that..if i dont experience what my mother, my brother, my friend, or my teacher experiences, does that make me immature or less matured? i believe empathy or imagining of being in someone's shoe also makes you more matured. i dont think getting yourself into dangerous relationships, after your sister was dumped, beaten or divorced, in order for you to live the same experience, is a smart idea. instead, you could learn from your sister's mistakes or pitfalls..the better your judgement is, the more matured you are.

as we read the magazines or listen to the radio, news etc, unconciously, what we read or listen to is shaping our personality..if you use your senses, it will make you think, again unconciously - perhaps, n when you start to think, you become more matured than before..or maybe 'stronger than yesterday'...or more alert n aware.. or however you choose to say..

i dont know what makes me write this piece of thought..i guess it was the testimonial that khadijah gave me..anyway, whatever i have written here is my opinion..but im not sure if ive presented it clearly, my command of english isnt very good..n i wouldnt want you to have a wrong impression whatsoever..

last but not least, im unique. n im learning to accept that. i hope you are too.